Have you ever been distanced or cut off by a family member, friend, or community without notice or choice? Or maybe you have done so to someone yourself. Of course, you have! We often use unhealthy Distance and Cutoffs to manage the fears, anxiety, and insecurities that arise in relational or communal systems. We find ways to self-justify our distance. We confuse boundaries without our behavior. And we find it easier to walk away than to move through.
While these strategies may offer temporary relief, they will stunt and undermine the opportunity to become a more resilient, courageous, and connected human. Those seeking to live a meaningful and purposeful life must learn how to do things differently in relationships.